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Confident Sober Women
Join Shelby John, sober since July 1, 2002, for empowering conversations on the Confident Sober Women podcast with women who've found joy and confidence in their alcohol and drug-free lives.
This show is a rally cry for empathetic, resilient, and wisdom-seeking women dedicated to building a life you don't want to escape from after that crucial first year of a sober lifestyle.
Discover how to:
· Build unshakable confidence in your sober life
· Break free from societal drinking norms
· Overcome the shame cycle and emotional numbing
· Resist the glamorized, over-hyped social influences around alcohol
· Create a pure and joyful life beyond recovery
Hear inspiring stories and practical advice on:
· Healing trauma
· Mindful parenting in recovery
· Optimizing physical and mental health
· Building a new, empowered identity
· Transforming your life beyond substance abuse recovery
We dive deep into questions like "Who am I now?" and "How do I pursue my heart's desires?", taking the intimidation out of sobriety and showcasing how to thrive in long-term recovery. This is truly a space for women supporting women in this modern recovery era.
New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe now for weekly inspiration on your journey to becoming one of the happiest sober women, free from the cool crowd's pressure to drink.
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Confident Sober Women
Breaking the Cycle: Healing Trauma and Building Boundaries in Long-term Recovery w/Lisa Frederiksen
My guest today is Lisa Frederiksen. Lisa is an author, speaker, and consultant who focuses on substance use disorders, mental health disorders, secondhand drinking, toxic stress, trauma, and related topics. In this episode, we discuss core values and healthy boundaries in the context of living in recovery from substance use disorders. We delve into the idea that once someone becomes sober, underlying feelings of trauma, shame, guilt, and self-loathing often persist and can drive negative behavior. We discuss the importance of addressing these underlying issues in order to achieve long-term recovery.
We also touch on the concept of “families are sick,” and how dysfunction at a high level can impact everyone in the family.
Highlights:
- Generational trauma and breaking the cycles.
- The importance of understanding that the stress response is wired into being human, and how experiences during the first three years of life can shape the way our brain works in relation to stress.
- The importance of creating healthy boundaries, not just in relation to substance use, but also in relation to other areas such as relationships, work, and family.
- The importance of learning to honor and respect yourself enough to make yourself a priority, which is what emotional sobriety work is all about.
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Oh, and by the way, if you didn’t know, I have an awesome course called Creating Healthy Boundaries; it's affordable, easy to follow, and will make a big difference in how you feel. Check it out here.
If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.
And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerably so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.
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Oh, and by the way, if you didn’t know, my remote Neurofeedback Therapy program is up and running. Learn more here!
If you aren't part of the Confident Sober Women Facebook group, it's a great place to be. There are over a thousand other sober women there building lives they don't want to escape from. Come on over and join us.
And if you haven't read my memoir, grab a copy today and maybe a second one for a friend. There is so much hope in recovery, and I shared my story so raw and vulnerable so that others would know they aren't alone and that there is a way to live well, manage relationships, parent your kids, and have a healthy body, all while staying sober. Grab a copy of Recovering in Recovery: The Life-Changing Joy of Sobriety wherever books are sold.